One of the biggest surrogacy issues is whether it is fair to the surrogate mother. It is generally assumed that she will become attached to the child she is carrying, even if it is not genetically her own, and that it is in some way cruel to take it from her, even if that is the established agreement.
However, studies have shown that surrogate mothers rarely change their minds and want to keep the child. Surrogate mothers adopt a range of techniques to maintain an appropriate relationship with the baby they are carrying, including bonding with the commissioning couple, and this helps to prevent attachment. Most surrogate mothers are proud of the job they are doing and feel positive about being able to help a childless couple to start the family they want so much.